We have an amazing family and friends who loved and supported us beyond anything I could have imagined when Sadie was born. These are just some of the ways our friends blessed us during the first few months with little girl.
1. Pray for them
Parenthood is hard. You're tired, your body is healing from something major and you really don't know what you're doing. Pray for patience, rest and guidance for your friends.
2. Ask them how, not if you can help
I don't like asking for help. I would like to be able to do everything by myself, but sometimes you just can't. Offering to help by asking how you help is more likely to receive a specific response..it might even let you snuggle with baby while they do something as simple as putting on make up.
3. Help feed them
Sometimes as a new mom you forget to eat, which may also mean that they forget to feed their family. For weeks, friends brought food, family cooked for us or we had frozen meals brought to be cooked at another time. This was such a big help!
4. Bring them a treat
It's scary getting out by yourself to begin with and if you have a c-section, you aren't allowed to drive for the first few weeks. My friends would bring me decaf lattes or caffeine free cokes and I cannot tell you how excited I got.
5. Visit them
It gets lonely during the day when baby is asleep and at first baby sleeps a lot. Your friends miss you, go see them.
6. Be patient with them
I am not known for being on time to begin with. Throw in trying to get out of the house with everything you need for baby or trying to end a feeding so you can get out the door and I can guarantee I will be late. Be patient with them, they are trying.